Updated: Oct 16, 2021
If you are sitting in your comfort zone and you don't want to upset the apple cart - that's ok. If you are sitting in your comfort zone and you are judging yourself for not trying - then that is not ok. Some people never get started because they don't want to fail - the thing is its just your First Attempt In Learning.
How many adults do you know that crawl around on all 4's - its a crazy question right, but seriously when you started to walk I am sure you didn't just do it, you tried many times and you failed many times and then one day you could walk. This really is the same for anything that you set your heart and mind to. Failing is just discovering another different way of how not to do it.
Everyone has something that they are really good at and everyone has something that seems impossible to achieve; the difference is your willingness to take a step in the right direction. I remember being in a seminar and the presenter kept repeating over and over again and again, the universe rewards action.
I look back at all the things that I can do now without thinking but there was a time when I didn't know. There is a logical process flow in becoming skilled in something. Firstly you don't know what you don't know (you are unconsciously ununskilled), then you make a decision that you want to do something and you realise you don't have those skills YET (you are consciously unskilled). You make the decision to give it a go and as you begin to learn you make mistakes and from those mistakes come new learnings and new skills (you are consciously skilled). After a lot of practise and honing your skills you now naturally do it without even thinking (you are unconsciously skilled.)
When you are a kid you don't know that you can't drive and it probably is not even on your radar. You don't know that you don't know. You get to the age when its legal to drive and you sit in the drivers seat, turn the key and probably stall the engine. You are learning what you need to do and the order in which to do them. Each time you approach the end of the street you think mirror, signal, manoeuvre. You are doing each of those 3 things and concentrating to do them all in the right order. After a few lessons, some emergency stops you become quite good at it and then your confidence grows, you relax and before you know it you're driving, arriving at your destination and you can't even remember what
route you took to get there.
The next time you think about something that you SHOULD be doing, if you don't feel the inclination to do it then don't. Just don't beat yourself up about it. Firstly change your language - think about something that you COULD be doing. Suddenly your brain is not feeling the pressure, suddenly it feels more like opportunity or a possibility. Get curious about why you want to do it, get curious about your reason for not doing. Be kind to yourself.
To avoid failure means that you are avoiding success. If you want to succeed then you will need to take risks. To take a risk means that you are willing to make mistakes so that you can learn from those mistakes. When you choose to stop fearing making mistakes you are a step closer to achieving what you desire.
Personally, I dislike the phrase
"if you fail to pian then you plan to fail"
because in my younger years I was really driven, tended to be more head down, bum up and failed to enjoy the journey. I got the goal but moved the goalposts so it was a continuous game of what's next. I feel now just taking the next step and being open to what presents, makes the game far more exciting and I feel like striving to succeed has helped me accept that failure is part of the process and so my mind is open to opportunities so I am capable of aspiring to pursue my dreams.
Do what you love to do. If you don't feel like doing it, find something you do enjoy doing. Just ask yourself ... Am I willing to .....
Marie is a qualified Master Practitioner and Teacher in Face Reading, Psychosomatic Therapy and NLP. With more than 15 years of experience, Marie brings a unique blend of skill and discernment into these untapped spiritual disciplines. Marie offers inspirational insights into your inner self and personal potential. Reach out to Marie via www.facereadingsydney.com.au
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