Updated: Oct 16, 2021
YOU are the endpoint of an emotional multigenerational process. You are 100% you and you are made up of the genes from your parents - lets say you have 50% mum and 50% dad (its not that exact really but bear with me as we go on the journey.) So you will have 25% of each of your grandparents, 12.5% of each of your great-grandparents, 6.25% of each of your great-great-grandparents, 3.12% of each of your great-great-great-grandparents, 1.56% of each of your great-great-great-great-grandparents and 0.78% of each of your great-great-great-great-great-grandparents.
Obviously this ends up in reality having different percentages which is why we are not exactly like our siblings (thank god 😊). Now we must remember that the genes of our ancestors are part of us and so this means we bring a lot of good genes through and along with that research shows that stress is passed on epigenetically - the stressed grandfather will pass this through the sperm.
Come on a journey and imagine your grandfather during WW2 - surrounded by shells and artillery fire. Obviously this is going to have an impact on the nervous system. Knowing that you carry some of his genetics and that genes are a predisposition, the genes will react to the sensitivities of your environment. Its the environmental factors that are responsible for turning genes on and off. Bearing in mind that stress is a response to a threat and your emotions are going to be triggered in response to external events which in turn sets off a number of events.
Lets look how the body reacts to a stress response. Whether these happen in a particular order or at the same time you will begin to notice that your blood pressure goes up, your heart rate increases, the blood flow diverts from your intestines into your muscle thus oxygenating your muscles which causes the cortisol to be released as sugar levels go up - this gives you more energy for your flight or fight response.
So the external event triggers your body into a number of functions that are all beyond your control because the reaction of your body is due to the triggering of the nervous system. If you are focussed and in control of your environment then you develop a strategy as you plan your life however the things you do to adapt to survive is at a purely unconscious level. When you spare your feelings and ignore them then this all occurs at an unconscious level. The way you adapt in childhood becomes the source of your problems later on.
As you slow down and become more aware you are able to become more conscious of the small changes in your body and you can catch things as they first appear. At the first sign of your heart beating faster you can choose to take a big deep breath. This will begin to calm the parasympathetic nervous system and you will become calmer. Repeat as many times as you need to. Other ways to calm yourself is by pulling gently downwards on your ear lobes or rubbing the length of your index finger along your philtrum (the area beneath the nose and above your top lip). Become aware of your triggers. For some people who have been through some really big trauma there is a big disconnect as they disconnect from the self as a coping mechanism - they are literally unable to be in the their body. The breathing and providing gentle touch to yourself brings you back into you body.
Learning to focus less on the outside world and more on how you move within the world, your bodies reaction to environmental factors can bring you great insights. As you measure how close you feel comfortable around people you learn to discern who is supporting you and making you feel comfortable and who is making you feel slightly uncomfortable - allowing you to adapt, in the moment. The more you are comfortable within yourself and looking after you own needs you may find that as you become yourself people will have difficulty with you because they have difficulty with themselves. You need to learn how to discern what is your energy and what is their energy and don't allow yourself to become entangled.
As you meet your own needs - you will attract others who see your needs. So become wholly aware of you and the impact you have on the world and take time to discern putting your energies to good use and not wasting energy. You will find that you have more energy when you spend your time in environments that are fulfilling to you. The more conscious you become the more calmness you will emanate which in turn will emanate calm, ease and grace back to you.
If you want to find a way to uncover your unconscious reactions there are genetic tests you can do. Discover the story of your ancestors and how you cocreate event to bring up opportunities for you to heal. It does not have to be deep and heavy, allow it to be fun and playful.
Marie is a qualified Master Practitioner and Teacher in Face Reading, Psychosomatic Therapy and NLP. With more than 15 years of experience, Marie brings a unique blend of skill and discernment into these untapped spiritual disciplines. Marie offers inspirational insights into your inner self and personal potential. Reach out to Marie via www.facereadingsydney.com.au
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