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The dichotomy of the duplicity of deception

Updated: Oct 16, 2021

Waters represent emotions which is why the moon affects the tides of the ocean and we get the word lunatic coming from "lunar tic" - if we are 60% made up of water of course we are going to be affected by the moon. The effects will be different for each and every one of us. For some visualising water will be calm and still and they will feel at peace whilst for others it will be stormy and foreboding and they will feel on edge and vice versa.

I am a big fan of the phrase "a double edged sword' because sometimes decisions can be difficult (especially for a libra) and when you want to weight up two contradictory ends of a scale it can be challenging. I remember when I first heard about dialectic behavioural therapy - it was a literally a mind blowing moment for me. In DBT you work to resolve the apparent contradiction between self-acceptance and the ability to make positive changes. Once people feel validated they are more open to cooperation and feel less anxiety when making an actual change. If there are ten possible options to consider and someone chooses option 3 you can validate them that that is a choice and guide them towards a better option as well.

When learning how to tolerate the life that you have co-created you can also bring about new ideas on what changes you would like to make. You can manage the emotions around all of this and learn new skills along the way. As you adapt to new ways of being you will begin to notice that your interactions with others improve and you feel safer and more secure whilst at the same time doing things differently.

New awareness will come to the surface as you can identify your own patters of self-destructive behaviour which will allow you to make healthier choices which nurture you rather than numb you. Overcoming problems will become much more healthy and effective. You can focus on things that you would like to change whilst noticing the benefits of your shadows as you integrate, align, consolidate and merge. This will help you collaborate with others as you enhance your skills and capabilities and in turn you will shine a spotlight on your strengths as your attitudes change around recognition for self rather than seeking validation from others.

Dysfunctional relationships can leave one with a maladaptive sense of self which in turn causes challenges with how one relates to others. Overcoming the challenge of building relationships with others starts with reconnecting to your sense of self who you have potentially abandoned, disowned or ignored for a long period of time. The relationship between Interoceptive Accuracy and social discomfort during a behavioural proxemics experiment will reveal to you how your desire for connection can be burdened when you feel another is becoming too close and your impulsive reaction is to shut down. What we desire most can often be overwhelming when we actually receive it.

The challenge in being completely honest is when one explores their motivations in-depth dark unconscious reasons come to light and it is in this moment that one needs to realise and accept that every emotion is useful in some context. The joy of anger, the pain of love and the battle to avoid ambivalence. If you try to contain something and pretend that it is not there - then it grows; however if you can acknowledge and accept and trust with conviction that it channels a positive intention driving to a purpose then you can let it go. When you shine a light on it, the shadow disappears and then you can adopt and embrace it and bring it into your expansive being accepting it is everything yet nothing. This is the wholeness of all that you are. As you judge others and respect their model of the world you co-create an opportunity of oneness as you transmogrify that judgement into curiosity as you reconcile the opposites and allow. The psychological integration can elevate your creativity and dissolve your internal resistance to whatever may be presenting.

Life is not necessarily a mirror of your whole internal world however it is a mirror of parts of you that are acknowledged and hidden. Conquer your shadow because once integrated - you are invited to play in the game of life. Your core consciousness is directing you on your integral path. Take that step now, or not, because you will know when is the right time for you and it is not by your planning of the event and is likely activating your intuitive nature because you will know beyond the shadow of a doubt.

Marie is a qualified Master Practitioner and Teacher in Face Reading, Psychosomatic Therapy and NLP. With more than 15 years of experience, Marie brings a unique blend of skill and discernment into these untapped spiritual disciplines. Marie offers inspirational insights into your inner self and personal potential. Reach out to Marie via

" My passion is to make a difference to people, empowering them to be their best. This can be achieved by increasing their self awareness,

and maintaining a bodymind balance."

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