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WYSIWYG Or is it - Look deeper, see with compassionate eyes and listen with an open heart

Updated: Oct 16, 2021

WYSIWYG - What you see is what you get.

What I remember from my NLP training that I wanted everyone to know is how the brain distorts, generalises and deletes and the difference between focussed and foveal vision. With this small piece of wisdom a game changer was born. You see I am a massive fan of truth - as in the truth will set you free; however our life experiences changes how we see the world and so your experience and my experience of the same situation can be very different. This is because the brain distorts, deletes and generalises.

Test this yourself - Don't think of a pink elephant!

In order to not think about a pink elephant you first have to think and visualise a pink elephant to then not think about it. When I think about distortions and how I have helped my clients overcome this - is by gently allowing them to see that their memories, their version of reality may not actually be true - it may be tainted, and even if it were true and they hold onto this then how is that helping them move forwards today with new glasses on, rather than constantly looking in the rear view mirror. If you want to move forwards then stop looking backwards and it is also useful to be aware of how your history has shaped you so that you can reshape your world, hold a new vision and progress in a different direction.

All people generalise and some people do not generalise. Everything is here to support and guide you and everyone always has your best interests at heart. What are your beliefs around these statements? The world is unsafe! Parts of the world are unsafe. Notice how this feels in your body. When you use wholistic general statements it can be big and when its big it is difficult to swallow. However, if you can chunk it down to something smaller then its more bitesize, more piecemeal and easier to digest.

Deletion of things are potentially things that caused us a lot of grief and harm and so we can delete from our conscious mind, pretend that they did not happen. The challenge is "The body keeps the score" (just ask Bessel Van Der Kok), "The body says No" (Gabor Mate), "Waking the Tiger" (Peter Levine), "Trauma and the Body: A Neurobiologically Informed Approach to Clinical Practice" (Pat Ogden). It may have escaped your conscious mind but the energy of this experience has hidden itself in the body and until you bring that energy to the surface and dissipate that energy you will forever be beholden to the experience which will impact you and you will not know why. This is NOT about victim blaming it is about handing you the key to unlock your opportunity for freedom.

How can face reading help us understand ourselves on a deeper level. There are many different ways and the one I want to share is the difference between left and right (masculine vs feminine), (discipline vs chaos), (structure vs dismantling) - how we face the world and how we react to the world; how we present to the world and how the world affects us, how we see ourselves and what goes on within us.

I want you to imagine that you are confidently out there on stage, presenting to the world and inside you feel strong like a tree with your branches reaching out and your roots keeping you firmly grounded. There is authenticity in your words as your body mind and speech are all aligned.

Now I want you to imagine that little girl on stage, stuttering her words out, her body twisted as she awkwardly shares her message to the world and tries to hide behind her crossed legs and folded arms. There is authenticity as you can see she is overcoming her fears and doing it anyways.

Now imagine that you are doing both of the above at the same time, your adult you is out there in the world presenting however your inner world is nervous and unsure - there is an incongruence and so on an unconscious level people are confused. Understanding the two sides means that there can be some actions that will bring these two into alignment. The adult can work with the child to resource her to find her confidence. The child can do more research to know her subject and that also will instil confidence.

With face reading I introduce you to the two sides and the needs and desires as well as the strengths and skills. I work with you to bring the two into alignment, bringing your awareness to your existing skills as well as integrating new knowledge. In time the two selves will work together and collaborate allowing you to bring your best self forward. Let your two selves merge so the new you can emerge.

When you focus on something you can be direct in your ability to get things done and when you approach life with foveal vision you can have more awareness. Knowing which vision to use when will help you envision, make a decision and move with precision.

On a final note, if you are going to judge another (or self) - then do so with compassion and understanding.

Marie is a qualified Master Practitioner and Teacher in Face Reading, Psychosomatic Therapy and NLP. With more than 15 years of experience, Marie brings a unique blend of skill and discernment into these untapped spiritual disciplines. Marie offers inspirational insights into your inner self and personal potential. Reach out to Marie via

" My passion is to make a difference to people, empowering them to be their best. This can be achieved by increasing their self awareness,

and maintaining a bodymind balance."

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